I was a typical Mr Nice guy that was well liked and had good friends, but I wasn’t having as much sex as I wanted and I definitely didn’t feel powerful around women.
What I didn’t want to acknowledge was that I had a lot of shame and difficulties around my sexuality and being a strong and safe masculine partner for my partner. I learned later that this came from old sexual habits, experiences in my childhood, family patterns and social conditions.
I tried to heal myself through doing many personal development courses, therapy, and coaching educations. It helped, but I didn’t experience the quality of intimacy that I was longing for. I felt that sex (now I know that it was the ejaculations) made me weaker and I was losing my energy while I was in a relationship. I felt it was not worth it since I really wanted to grow. For many years, I ran away from opportunities for deeply committed relationships and focused more on studying different kinds of personal development and spirituality. I wasn’t ready to admit to myself that I was living a Puer (spiritual) life.
Here is my story:
When a relationship ended, I understood that I had to do something about it and I was ready for Tantra. I went on an intense journey. I discovered so much more energy, became happier, the pain in my body and shame disappeared, and I lost weight. I learned how I could have sex that nurtured my energy and being on a daily basis and developed the presence needed to be in a long-term intimate relationship that supports my spiritual growth.
I took more than 50 workshops over a period of 4,5 years in my tantra school. I become more confident around women and in my long-term relationship. And surprisingly, I started to earn more money at work too as people around me started to respect me more. I became more relaxed and happy with and within myself. I was then ready for the next step and I became a certified tantric bodyworker and began to give tantric massages to women, men and couples.
Still, life and tantra are so much more than sex. I had to leave the tantra school in order to come back to my own heart and myself. It was too much focus on sex and it had some unhealthy power dynamics.
I did primal therapy and I was doing Osho dynamics for 200 days in order to come back to myself. I went to Peru to study shamanism and cleanse myself from unhealthy imprints from my old tantra school. I got a deeper insight into myself, my patterns and also learn more about how to work more safely with people.
I took tantric workshops with a more gentle approach to tantra and intimacy, like the Wheel of consent and Belly2Belly. I got a better understanding of how trauma can be created and how important it is to have a safe container in sessions/workshops and as a foundation for intimate relationships. I became a certified Integral Sexologist. I learned also emotional focused therapy tools for better understanding dynamics playing out in intimate relationships.
During my work of giving a tantric massage, I met a lot of men (and women) that needed more training and support in order to make bigger changes. Therefore, I developed The Wildman Program. Here, I share all my knowledge from tantra, coaching, shadow work, and the most potent tools and exercises I have learned over the last 20 years I have been on the spiritual journey.
I have made a challenging program will hopefully transform and help you to have amazing sex and better intimate relationship mastery. But it at the end of the day, it is all about self – love and self-acceptance and love for your closes ones that really matters.
It gives me great joy to share my passion and knowledge from the fields of coaching and tantra with you!
I am looking forward to hearing from you and get to know you better.
All the best,
More about Paals
Paal has lead a number of different teaching groups over the last 12 years. He has coached and given tantric massages to women, men, and couples for close to 6 years. He has been approved as an Integral Sexology by the Human Education Group in 2018.
In 2001, Paal was certified as NLP Practitioner and in 2003 became a Journey Practitioner/Therapist where he continued his coaching education through the Leela Foundation learning deeper methods of self-inquiry, hypnosis and the Enneagram. He developed and holds courses in archetypes and shadow-work with Eivind Skjellum through Authentic Norway.
He has taken about 70 workshops in tantra. His desire to be true to his own soul and express his own voice lead him to develop The Wildman Program, based on his 20-years experience in coaching, tantra and shadow work. Lately, his has gone deeper into shamanic studies and recently in 2017 passed a 10-week advanced initiation course in Peru.
A short summary of formal background
Tantra and sexology
Approved integral sexologist at Human Education Group – DK.
Certified tantra teacher and bodyworker.
Assisting in de-armouring training Gaia Method (Susanne Roursgaard)
Assisting in the Love Core de-armouring training.
Assisting in Embody Intimacy training.
Assisting Primal Therapy with Puja Lepp.
Studied with David Cates – Belly2Belly and Betty Martin The Wheel of Consent and other tantra teachers.
NLP Practitioner – Paradigm Academy
Accredited Journey Therapist/Practitioner
Career teacher and advisor with 10 years of practice.
Leela Practitioner – self-inquiry, mindfulness, the Enneagram and NLP. 7 years of studying with Gangaji and Eli.
Archetype workshops (Jungian, Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette) with Eivind Skjellum – inner-throne and authentic relating.
10-week accreditation shamanic initiation course – Ayahuasca Foundation.
1-year training: Rituals with The School of Movement Medicine + different separate courses with different shamans.
Award-winning producer in Mpower Media/Empower Films.
Making documentaries about people that have taken difficult, brave and controversial life choices. People who are willing to sacrifice their own needs and have the courage to challenge suppressive regimes and established truths in order to make a change. Portraits of Dalai Lama, Kiran Bedi, Marguerite Barankitse, Tsering Woeser, monks and nuns in and outside Tibet, resisting fighters, concentration camp survivor, prisoners and other brave souls fighting for social justice, human rights and a better future for our world.
Master in Business and Marketing – BI – Norwegian Business School.